Have you noticed that our names flip back and forth all the time on this website, even between the link and the name of the site?

That is not accidental inconsistency - that is deliberate. Deliberately confusing, perhaps, because sometimes it's alphabetical and sometimes it's just Viv being an egomaniac, but it's a bit of a running joke with us.

Those of you who know us well will also know us as "Blivienne", which I've always loved as a cheesy abbreviation. Blake dislikes it as he reckons it's closer to my name than his even though it totally starts with his name, which I reckon is way more prominent.

This is one of those inane arguments that I can't expect others to really understand, but it's a hallmark of our relationship that I enjoy. There is no "first" or "more important" or "last" in our relationship and I think flipping it back and forth is a delightful way to reflect that, confusing as it may end up being (even I on a few occasions have to stop and think about which name comes first in the URL for this site!). So for those who keep pointing out to me that "I've swapped the order here and here and here", believe me - I know. And that it's confusing is kind of wonderful in a quirky way.